If They Humiliate You In Hiring, Believe Them
If they shame you during hiring, believe them.
Interviews are their best behavior. Sign the offer, and you’re signing up for more of the same.
This guide gives you a simple 24-hour plan and word-for-word scripts to set a boundary, or walk.
It starts with small tests, turns into public digs, becomes “you’re too sensitive,” and gets worse after you join.
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What’s Really Going On
Humiliation is control. They make you feel small, so you accept bad terms and say thanks.
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Why It Matters
It doesn’t get better after day one.
It kills focus, speed, and growth.
It bleeds into pay, scope, and credit.
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The Pattern (So You Stop Second-Guessing)
They offer => you accept => they shame you for accepting.
They change terms, then call you “difficult” for asking for clarity.
They add an audience (CCs, group chats) to push you into silence.
Fast Red Flags (Score 0–10)
Public criticism during the process
Terms changing (comp, title, scope)
“Be grateful” talk
Guilt when you ask normal questions
Vague steps, last-minute hoops
“We’re family” + no docs
4+? You’re not overreacting. You’re under-protecting.
Interviews are their best behavior. If “best” includes shame, the floor is low. Trust your read.
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